Self Esteem

Learn to deflect envy by drawing attention away from yourself. Develop your sense of self-worth
from internal standards and not incessant comparisons. Robert Greene

Don’t base your identity on your imperfection. You aren’t your imperfections, you are the being that is aware of your imperfections. Haemin Sunim

Pay respect that you may be respected, and know that to be esteemed you must show esteem. Baltasar Gracián

Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own? Brigham Young

If you boast, you will have no merit. If you promote yourself, you will have no success. Lao Tzu (Tao Te Ching, Amazon book)

The trick is to think highly of yourself without thinking you’re higher than everyone else. Ed Latimore

When people appear to be something other than good and decent, it is only because they are reacting to stress, pain, or the deprivation of basic human needs such as security, love, and self-esteem. Abraham Maslow

Praise is not something to be sought. One shouldn’t welcome it, rather be indifferent to it. It’s a trap. If you accept the praise of someone you’re henceforth their slave. You have to live up to that person’s image of you. You’re not free to just be yourself. @TheAncientSage

If you are ever tempted to look for outside approval, realize that you have compromised your integrity. If you need a witness, be your own. Epictetus

You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness. Brené Brown

Nothing I accept about myself can be used against me to diminish me. Audre Lorde

The foundation for self-esteem is self-understanding. Maxime Lagacé

Every action is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. James Clear

Talking much about oneself can also be a means to conceal oneself. Friedrich Nietzsche

We love seeing raw truth and openness in other people, but we’re afraid to let them see it in us.

We’re afraid that our truth isn’t enough – that what we have to offer isn’t enough without the
bells and whistles, without editing, and impressing. Brené Brown

When someone bases their self-esteem on the approval of others, they are abandoning themselves. It is an exhausting and powerless way to live. Neil Strauss

Everyone is lying – about what they make, about how confident they feel, about how hard they work, about how well things are going. Stop comparing yourself to these lies. Stop thinking about them at all. Ryan Holiday

Never tolerate disrespect or you might start believing you deserved it. Carlos Del Valle
When you’re lazy you avoid the hard work necessary to build lasting self-esteem. Maxime Lagacé

A man who says, ‘I want to change, tell me how to’, seems very earnest, very serious, but he is not. He wants an authority whom he hopes will bring about order in himself. Jiddu Krishnamurti
Nothing so blights our self-esteem as to disapprove of what we once approved. François de La Rochefoucauld

If you can’t laugh at yourself, you’re missing out on the best joke of all. Ed Latimore

A combination of self-doubt, giving up too early, and not pushing hard enough prevents most people from ever reaching anywhere near their potential. Sam Altman

For most people the most difficult thing is to be comfortable with themselves. Loneliness and silence are poetry to some, but hell to most. Thibaut

The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you but yourself. Rita Mae Brown

It is weakness that is the source of all selfishness. Swami Vivekananda

Never make this mistake of thinking that you elevate yourself by humiliating people. Robert Greene

A human being wants something that will fill the holes he feels within himself. James Pierce

It takes great personal courage to let yourself appear weak. David Foster Wallace (Infinite Jest)

Don’t discuss yourself, for you are bound to lose; if you belittle yourself, you are believed; if you praise yourself, you are disbelieved. Michel de Montaigne

Let us be grateful to the mirror for revealing to us our appearance only. Samuel Butler

No matter how hard you try, there is always some guy or girl who achieves more. My attitude is, so what? Does any of us need to be at the very top of the whole world? It’s ridiculous. Charlie Munger

The greater the artist, the greater the doubt. Perfect confidence is granted to the less talented as a consolation prize. Robert Hughes

Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember: the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you. Zig Ziglar

Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 20. Tom Bilyeu

Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your handbreak on. Maxwell Maltz

Eliminate the need to be liked. Replace it with the intention to be of service, whether to others, something you believe in, or your highest self. Neil Strauss

Live as if you’re alone in the world. No one is watching you. You don’t have to please anyone or live up to their expectations or fear their judgment. @TheAncientSage

Do the things that interest you and do them with all your heart. Don’t be concerned about whether people are watching you or criticizing you. The chances are that they aren’t paying any attention to you. Eleanor Roosevelt

Encourage yourself, support yourself, and celebrate every little thing about yourself. Iyanla Vanzant

The starting point of building your self-esteem is for you to have a clear sense of who you are and what you want. Brian Tracy

Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right and important, although difficult, is the highroad to pride, self-esteem, and personal satisfaction. Margaret Thatcher

Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness.
Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. August Wilson

Nobody can say anything about you. Whatsoever people say is about themselves. But you become very shaky, because you are still clinging to a false center. That false center depends on others, so you are always looking to what people are saying about you. Osho

Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. M. Scott Peck

We can gradually drop our ideals of who we think we ought to be… or who we think other people think we want to be or ought to be. Pema Chödrön

Ask for what you want. You usually won’t get it, and often the rejection will be painful. But when this works, it works surprisingly well. Sam Altman

Define yourself by your strengths, not your weaknesses. Acknowledge your weaknesses and figure out how to work around them, but don’t let them stop you from doing what you want to do. Sam Altman

If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think. T. Harv Eker

Surround yourself with people who only lift you higher. Payal Kadakia

You acquire self-esteem when you always do what you said you would do. @orangebook_

So much advantage in life comes from being willing to look like an idiot over the short term. Shane Parrish

When I extend small kindness to others, I find it easier to like myself. If you feel that your self-esteem is low, try extending small kindness to strangers. Haemin Sunim

Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions… Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it. Tina Fey

When you truly understand your worth, you feel an obligation to give your gift to the world. Bill Masur

Creative ideas happen when you stop thinking about what others will think. James Clear

Believe whatever you need to believe to do your best work. Sahil Lavingia

Self-belief must be balanced with self-awareness. Sam Altman

Your own level of excitement and self-belief will convince people that you know where you are going and should be followed. Robert Greene

Love yourself. When you love yourself, people can pick up on that: they can see confidence, they can see self-esteem, and naturally, people gravitate towards you. Lilly Singh

You’d be surprised how addicting high self-esteem is. Fergie (The Black Eyed Peas)

People wear all sorts of things, but the best part is the part that’s on the inside. That’s what’s really you — the person inside. Fred Rogers

You have moments, days, sometimes weeks when you will doubt yourself. Just know, it is all part of the spiritual process. Iyanla Vanzant

Retrieve your self-esteem so it is not dependent on how they do or don’t respond to you. You are enough. You are worthy. Thema Bryant-Davis

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Self-belief is immensely powerful. The most successful people I know believe in themselves almost to the point of delusion. Sam Altman

To keep going when it’s tough is important. To believe in yourself no matter what is vital. Maxime Lagacé

Never bend your head. Hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye. Helen Keller

If you want to see the love of your life, look in the mirror. Byron Katie

You have real success when you don’t try to impress. Maxime Lagacé

Put all excuses aside and remember this: you are capable. Zig Ziglar

Don’t compete with your neighbors. Compete with your ideals. @TheStoicEmperor

The loudest critic is internal. James Clear

Chasing approval chases it away. @TheStoicEmperor

Never dishonor yourself to honor others. Unknown

Talk about your failures without apologizing. Brené Brown

The world can only see us as we see ourselves. David Hawkins

Stop comparing your life to everyone around you. Eric Thomas

You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. Dr. Seuss

Love who you are, embrace who you are. Lilly Singh

Don’t just fly, soar. Dumbo

There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow men. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self. Ernest Hemingway

Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands. Brené Brown

If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish. Sam Walton (Walmart)

You doubt your value. Don’t run from who you are. C.S. Lewis (Prince Caspian)

Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment. Thomas Carlyle

If you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth, but you’ve got to be willing to take the hits. Rocky Balboa

Humility is the mother of giants. One sees great things from the valley; only small things from the peak. G.K. Chesterton (The Innocence of Father Brown)

Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are. Marilyn Monroe

When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are. Oprah Winfrey

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. Buddha

If you can dream it, you can do it. Walt Disney

Look inside yourself. You are more than what you have become. Mufasa (The Lion King)

When you find out who you are, you find out what you need. Mama Odie (The Princess and The Frog)

If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will do it for you. Kobe Bryant

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Dr. Seuss

I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence. Frederick Douglass

Every small positive change we make in ourselves repays us in confidence in the future. Alice Walker

Humility is to make a right estimate of one’s self. Charles Spurgeon